Can we be cordial anymore? Not nice, not friendly, but civil? I am not sure if we can, but I may be wrong. Riddle me this, if someone you’re vaguely familiar with followed you via social media, but you don’t reciprocate, and not because you have a problem with the person. You just don’t want to. You just not interested. It’s not a problem for you, but allegedly its an act of disrespect. Yet, you mean no disrespect. Why is this a thing?

To be honest, this isn’t the first forum I’ve posed this situation to.I have taken a very unscientific poll of asking my friends if this is unacceptable and apparently. Not accepting the follow is bad form. But I don’t want to!

Here’s the thing, I have managed to execute the lowest rung of social media status possible. I essentially don’t exist. I have curated what I see to a quaint, sharp, witty, informative and reasonable cyber ecosphere as I can handle. Rarely do I see memes of misspelled or missing words that warn the dangers of “females” and other various relationship behavior that seems completely unreasonable and unacceptable to me. People who photo in various stages of dress or undress are far from daily vantage. No shaderoom, baller alert. My notifications are not turned on for any site. I don’t follow many people and few people follow me. Its as close to perfection as I could choose. It’s light and its easy. No clutter, Can’t deal with it.

For this reason, I try not to add fluff into my cyberspace. This isn’t in judgement of the requestor, its me. In a world where how many followers you have determines how valuable what you have to say is I would prefer to observe. Observations of my choosing, unrelated to anyone else, just doing what I want to do in a space I made for myself. Yet, I was informed by most of those surveyed it’s no bueno. I’m not trying to be rude, I just don’t want to do it.

If I choose to not return the follow I am letting it be know that it is not all good. That’s what I have been told. But I don’t have a problem and I don’t think they should have a problem and here’s why. I’m not doing anything on social media. I have friends and we hang out and talk frequently, but everyone knows I’m not taking a picture. I don’t even have my phone out when I’m out socially. I consider it personal coup that I am out places and people see me all the time but I can rarely be seen photographed anywhere.  It’s nearly my calling card. So there’s nothing to see on my social media a random cute shoe every now and again, an even rarer selfie, music I’ m listening to before bed or when i wake up. I guess that does sound kinda fun, but its regular.

I guess you shouldn’t begrudge a person for following you, and I don’t. I just don’t want to feel obligated to follow in return. Maybe that is rude, but I truly do not mean to be. I just want to do what I want to do. Especially in spaces where I can have autonomy.

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